Are you an only child, caring for aging parents? You’re not alone. This describes one in five American families today, and you don’t need to feel overwhelmed on the journey.
If you’re starting to feel the stress and wondering when a good time would be to discuss care arrangements with Mom and Dad, NOW is the time. To have open, healthy discussions with parents BEFORE decisions need to be made is the very best-case scenario. Convey that your first and foremost desire is to provide them with the life they want as they age, and you will work together to make that possible.
Next, choose your team. That’s right, you do have a team. Respite care workers are available in the community to offer a few hours of care or even an entire day or longer if needed. Take much-needed and regular breaks away from your parents’ schedule, so that you can meet yours and have a great attitude upon return. And don’t forget the many churches and aging agencies in your area that are available to assist and cheer you on!
Consider some on-going, in-home care. Aplaceformom.com and similar websites list great resources available throughout the country that have affordable and flexible plans. It is possible to give Mom and Dad great care while meeting the demands of your busy family and work schedule.
Know your FMLA rights. Under the Family Medical Leave Act, a covered employer is required to provided qualified employees up to 12 work weeks of unpaid leave each calendar year. Know your rights and be sure you meet the employee qualifications. You deserve to care for your parents without worrying about losing a job.
Find a great elder law attorney. When parents face critical health challenges, you will want an expert to set up power of attorney and handle all the necessary paperwork.
Although not always possible, include your parents as the key players on your team whenever you can. They deserve to be respected, not managed. And as they see you working WITH them, they will have incentive to work WITH you. Discuss the type of care they hope for, a living will, and any additional concerns they may have. If you’re wondering the perfect time to have these tough discussions, the time is NOW. You and your parents will be grateful.
We at Parkview Senior Living are doing everything we can to maintain a safe and enjoyable home for our residents. Please contact our office if we can play a more significant part on your team!
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